A culture has been lost. Well, maybe not lost, but dimmed from plain view. Of course the more experienced generations can rant on this topic all day long, but I am an individual who sees a great lacking in our social realm.


 

 

A culture has been lost.

Well, maybe not lost, but dimmed from plain view. Of course the more experienced generations can rant on this topic all day long, but I am an individual who sees a great lacking in our social realm.

Back in the day of America’s early development, there were things known as manners. Common folk used etiquette in public, which is basically consideration for those around you. A unique trait, and I’m afraid, a dying quality in our modern culture.

We’ve stopped using certain courtesies and gestures because too often they were the distinguishing acts of snobbery. But a huge misconception is certain manners and actions are simply gestures of respect. Our modern culture misinterpret them all the time. For example:
A man holds a door for the woman behind him as they enter a building. Years ago, this was a common act of respect and consideration. No big deal, it happened a lot. Today, the woman wonders if he’s chauvinistic, or how obviously he will check her out as she passes..

Or am I thinking too much into this?

This realization occurs to me every time I meet someone with that sparkle of manners. Maybe it’s just me, but the first words with someone with wholesome manners is like getting splashed in the face with cold water. You didn’t expect it, but holy cow was it refreshing! They say “yes, miss,” “yes, sir,” and “have a nice day.” They look you in the eye when they speak to you. What they say is said with confidence and honesty. It’s not condescending, it’s just manners.

I’m considering a loss of social graces happened when average clothing styles became more sexy. I’m all about “dressing to impress” but in moderation. Too many women leave little to the imagination, which in turn, takes away some self-respect. In today’s world of dress attire, you fall hind-end-backward into one of the two categories -- comfortable or in style.

In days of manners, ladies dressed beautiful and elegant, they were poised and graceful. Nowadays, if women don’t hear any whistles, that means they don’t have enough exposed. It’s sad some people judge how good they look by other’s reactions; they don’t know for themselves. As for men, I’m not going to pretend I know. Maybe some gentlemen out there, if there are any left, can shed some light on that side of the world sometime.

It’s true times have changed the way we think, work and take every day as it comes. However, I’m wondering if what we have adapted into is something as dry and exciting as a dried up piece of asparagus.

All we have left of these times of gold are long-passed memories of our seniors, or when we set a nice dinner table. How often do you put your napkin in your lap, sit with your elbows off the table, chew with your mouth closed and carry on a pleasant conversation?

Keep manners alive, I don’t believe they’re dead, but if we’re not careful, they will become extinct.

Carthage Press