I wanted to punch him, but instead turned to him and said, “(Everyone else) can have you. From my view you aren’t much of a choice anyway.” I then quickly made my exit.
“Adventures in Dating Land.”
That will be the title of my first book. I’m not sure when I’ll write it, but it will happen — it has got to happen.
Case in point: A few days ago, I walked into a store when an elderly man held the door open for me. When I said thank you he said, “You must be a model.” That made me feel good, so good that I kissed him on the top of his forehead. He giggled like a schoolgirl. Five minutes later, another “gentleman” approached me. His tact was a little off, I’ll say. In fact, he said things I won’t repeat here. Outrageous.
And you’d think he would be embarrassed. No such luck. He then proceeded to tell me all the problems he has with black women. I wanted to punch him, but instead turned to him and said, “(Everyone else) can have you. From my view you aren’t much of a choice anyway.” I then quickly made my exit.
This made me think. While I’m not silly enough to believe that all men act like morons, maybe some need a little guidance. Ta da! Here I am, an undocumented guidance counselor. Men, listen to these tips. They can save your pride and potentially get you that date.
• When you approach a woman, act like you’ve seen a woman before. Don’t gawk, ogle or act strange. We really don’t like it when our “creep” radar gets set on high. Instead, try a compliment. A real compliment.
• The first comment to a lady should not be about the prowess (either real or conceived) you have in any area. You come across as trying too hard and a bit desperate.
• Don’t be negative. If you get to the first date, do not commence a verbal attack on your parents, your ex, your co-workers or anyone around you. Women shouldn’t be left with the impression that their date doesn’t like anything — or anyone. We want to be left with a positive experience. This triples your chances of a second date.
• Have some sense about scents. Don’t overpower us with your cologne. It should complement you, not pound us over the head. Want to know if you are wearing it too strong? If you notice your date is running from you like Penelope would run from Pepe Le Pew, you’ve gone too strong, strip back a layer — or six.
• Be a gentleman. A lot of women like James Bond but wouldn’t want to marry him. Open doors for your date, open your wallet and treat your date like you’d want a date to treat your mother.
Trust me, these quick tips can help you in your short- and long-term dating life. These are just some practical ideas designed to help. Don’t get included in my second book, “More Adventures in Dating Land.”
Necole Sims writes for the Canton (Ohio) Repository.